When people
overtake the line called bullying
People
usually don't realize when our children suffer bullying, or rather when this
kind of thing that other children do to our children stop to be "things of children", or
"funny things" to become
offensive things that affect as to our children as to leave this activity or
worse things. When we have a kid usually we leave to be objective, and
everything your kid does they are good or funny things. If our kid laughs at
another, this fact is an innocent mischief for us, and we rarely think about
the other kid or kid's parents, because in most occasions parents get worse
than their kid.
On the one
hand it exist a bit approach to our children, to lack of time or character our
children, which leads to ignorance about them, and when we realize problem it's
too later.
On the
other hand we not being able to act properly when we know it, because our kid
or other person talk us about this problem, or even we see this bullying with
our own eyes.
As my opinion, I'm going to talk about a personal experience. A week ago, I was talking with a mother who takes her daughter to an activity after the school as me, it’s the same activity but different group. Her daughter is the only one of her class that goes to this activity because none her friends want to go, or they can it, so, by one thing or other. In this activity there are about fifteen mates and half of them they're going at the same school, and the others, most of them they're going to this activity two years. I have to say that this school is a private and elite school. Well, there are two girls, because it's an activity girls only, as her daughter is new, they say her "You are a stranger girl because you don't come with us to our school". "You are a stranger and you can't come or talk with us". These girls search the complicity of the rest and all of them laugh at her. The other day, they asked her "show us your hands", girl showed her hand, because she believed she was accepted by the group, and they said "look at, she has to be her, because she has red hands. She has been to thrown fart away". And all of them laughed.
Are small
things they become big thing for the affected, even to change his or her
character. Like a he feels hatred towards the activity and others activities,
even to become more introverted.
Each one
acts a different way, and which is the correct way?
- Talking with activity's teacher?
- Talking with other children, our kids’ mates?
- Talking with the kids' mates' parents?
- We should forget "time heals all" or "It will be fixed"
She said
this things to her mother step by step, in different days. The girl don't want
to go to this activity nevermore. Her mother talked about this to teacher but
she didn't know how to remedy it because the stupid girls kept on. Her father
wanted to go talking to parents of girls but mother didn't leave him. Nowadays,
the girl didn't go to this activity, an activity he loved it, and when she
arrived at her home she practiced the whole time.
To end:
- Are the parents of stupid girls to blame ?
- Are girls to blame ?
- Is the education of private and elite school because make a ghetto?
- Are the parents of girls to blame because they didn't knew how they have to react?
- Maybe the instructor of group? Or general director because she should to hire instructors with psychology?
- Aren’t there guilty?
The truth
is the girl didn't want to sign on other activity such a music, drawing and so
on.
